Planning for the wedding is filling up the days here. It's a happy time. And an anxious one too.
This was a snapshot Erin took on the day we went to Fire Island a year ago to consider locations there. It would have been a great spot, home to our family vacations from recent years, but when I consider the extra layer of Logistics- schlepping everything on a ferry and finding cottage housing for guests, I'm glad we didn't choose that after all. It's hard enough to host a wedding close to home.
Except that we all could have been barefoot or in flip flops. (Still not a fan of fancy shoes.)
I had a nice long talk last night with my dear friend, Jill. Her second daughter, Lauren, is getting married in a few weeks out west. We aren't able to go (which is complete torture), but it was good to compare notes as we both approach the day. Her experience has always been a step ahead of mine and I rely on her sensible point of view when mine has gone completely wonky. As always, she calmed lots of my worries about the way it all shakes out on the day itself. There are so many things beyond anyone's control. At some point, you just have to let it be what it is. A day to celebrate and be joyful for Erin and John Paul.
That said, today I would love to take that taxi to the ferry dock, have my feet in the sand and water for a bit. An hour or two would do it, settle the excitement that borders on anxiety. Give me a clear perspective.
Maybe in September.
True to form, I will be wistfully longing for all of this- then.
Looks beautiful, Charlotte. I know your daughter's day..wherever it is...will be beautiful. Don't worry. My son gets married the end of September! We WILL be ready to celebrate at Silver Bella, won't we!
Posted by: Linda Richter | July 17, 2009 at 10:46 AM
Not to worry - your pals will be there to assist in anyway -- and drugs! Don't forget!
XO
Posted by: barneypark | July 17, 2009 at 03:03 PM
It will all be wonderful on the day. We had our Wedding at the beginning of March and after all the planning and worrying it was without doubt the happiest and most relaxed days of my life. I feel excited for you and Erin remembering those wonderful weeks of excitement and worry I had with my Mum leading up to the big day. Enjoy it.
Posted by: Fiona | July 17, 2009 at 03:45 PM
Do make sure that you can be relaxed enough to enjoy the day.
Make your lists, tick them off and don't worry because it does all fall into place on the day.
It is sure to be a beautiful wedding
Alison
Posted by: Alison Gibbs | July 18, 2009 at 04:27 AM
Wishing you joy as you plan. Allow the day to unfold and remember to just enjoy and take it all in. So many brides and MoB's get so caught up in all the details that the day goes by without their enjoyment. I'm sure your day will be truly beautiful and a thoughtful ceremony. Peace and joy!
Posted by: Linda Thiltgen | July 18, 2009 at 04:17 PM
Hello Charlotte,
How exciting!
~ Gabriela ~
Posted by: Gabriela | July 18, 2009 at 10:11 PM
From a daughter's pov: Your memories will be of what a (good) time you all had together, not the details. So have a fabulous time!
Posted by: stef | July 19, 2009 at 10:06 AM
You know... the most important thing is that if they love each other they can get married... all the other stuff.... is just iceing on the cake!
My neice got married on April Fool's day and her family pulled quite a trick on her... they had a pretend cake made up mostly just foam and frosting... and when they brought it in... before it got to the table... the person tripped and it went everywhere! This was before the guests came etc... it was quite a tension breaker!!!! Of course... she has 4 brothers and she is the only girl... they will always tease her to pieces!
Good luck mom... weddings are wonderful... I think that the hardest thing is when you realize that you have to let go... and now he/she is going to have someone else that is first in their hearts.
Posted by: Jean C. | July 25, 2009 at 02:56 PM